Honor Healing to Love

The Development of Spiritual Leadership

Healing to Love

 

The Music Choices provided for the week are:  Frozen, This Divide, and We Are One.  Which of these songs resonates with you presently?

 

The Word

 

What is transformation? (spirit)

 

A Definition:  Transformation is the act or process of change:  in composition or structure, outward form or appearance of, or in character or condition.

 

Transformation is needed to evolve humanity through love to heal relationship and be at peace.  It is a process by which evolution is made possible, both globally and individually.  While we uniformly need a global transformation, we must begin with individual transformation in relationship.  This transformation guided by women moves us toward an enlightened consciousness through understanding gender distinction, purpose, and esteem.

 

For women, understanding our distinct identity from men gives us the opportunity for our own transformation and the ability to become spiritual leaders.  This distinction is a learned distinction without which we flounder in uncertainty.  This distinction between women and men is a distinction in spirit.  Spirit is the light–the spark of life that informs fulfillment and energizes the will of purpose.  Women are spirit, the breath of life, and the very nature of being, the messengers of spirit.  Men have spirit, the spirit of action, to go forth and do.  For men, their spirit is a useful tool to achieve.  For women, their spirit as the nature of being is the essence of spiritual presence and is mirrored through relationship.

 

Our self-transformation makes possible our purpose–the healing of our relationships, transforming the world toward a greater sense of fulfillment.  The first relationship then to heal is the relationship between ourselves and our higher spirit.  The connection with, insight to, and wisdom of our higher selves enlightens us about our own self-worth from which all relationships are born.  If we follow the guide of love in relationship by being of service to a higher meaning or purpose, we can move through darkness to light.  No matter how long our journey takes to acquire a new perspective of the purpose of our leadership and spiritual worth, our persistence toward our own transformation leads us to become an influence of change.  Personal as well as global joy are the results of living with purpose and security to evolve humanity in a vision of exchange.

 

We can encourage the transformation toward enlightenment for ourselves and others by finding peace with our gender identity, our bodies, and our esteem.  This peace begins with loving ourselves and creating a vision of our wholeness through the self-governance of our worth, happiness, and compassion.  The love of self leads to wholeness as we are cradled in the arms of spiritual love.  By remaining centered, true to our spirit, and being grateful of our spiritual worth, we have the power to become efficacious in our own lives regardless of the maturity of and appreciation from others.  Aligned in the truth of our being, we heal ourselves and become the influence of a stable, healthy spirit which guides men toward love and humanity toward peace.

 

A resolution toward the acceptance of gender distinction, purpose, and esteem of our bodies transforms our consciousness toward self-governance, spiritual leadership, and spiritual guidance.

 

The Soul Gift

 

Spiritual leadership is the journey toward healing others and expressing your self-love to create the possibility of enlightenment through union and humanity.

 

This leadership is not just sympathy for humanity but compassion.  This compassion is between men and women, and suffering manifests by disconnection.  To heal is to make whole.  Women and men are polarities of the wholeness of life.  Respect for transformation to reach maturity enables us to be interdependent in union in the compassion for one another.  Without compassion, there may be sympathy, however sympathy does not provide a solution for disconnection.  Sympathy is simply a feeling or expression of pity or sorrow about someone’s situation.  Sympathy might indicate a genuine concern about the distress of another, but it is only a feeling.  It is not an action to resolve the situation.  Compassion is sharing the suffering and is more than words and a feeling; it is care through action to tend to a need.  In order to move from sympathy to compassion, we must understand the nature of change and the need for transformation.

 

All of life is energy.  We are energy.  Energy is always in motion and therefore change is ever occurring.  Change occurs through external factors and uses external influences to highlight a need for action.  When we recognize the need for change, we are asked to respond to this change.  How we respond to change will determine our efficaciousness.  If we respond through fear, we are not able to evolve.  If we respond through spiritual growth, we have the ability to see the opportunities for the fullness of our expression, thereby evolving our lives.

 

The act of transformation to make basic or fundamental changes is to give a new orientation to or serve a new end to our lives.  Modifying our beliefs and aligning our actions with integrity and truth achieve desired results.  Spiritual growth or transformation is an internal, fundamental evolution in your beliefs of why you perform certain actions.  The emotional impetus to establish the ability for increased self-worth, value, and esteem in a meaningful and significant way guides us toward making concrete lives that are safe and happy.

 

This impetus of change derived from within does not require any external influence to maintain.  It is a constant, because it mirrors the truth of the self. Because of its permanent nature, individual integrity–or the alignment of word and deed–can be made trustworthy.  Through personal transformation, we can learn to trust more in ourselves and the efficaciousness of our lives.

 

The desire for transformation is the recognition of the need for internal change and growth coupled with the underlying recognition of the need for compassion to alleviate suffering.  The whole world can be seen as suffering, struggling through change as external forces affect you.  A transformation of the world needs to occur.  Humanity is at odds with varying degrees of worth, value, and integrity, crying out for justification.  This cry for justification and need for worth, value, and integrity can be seen in many forms of fear:

 

Fear

• unhappiness/loneliness
• adversity/anguish/exhaustion
• ignorance/blame
• hindered communication/deception
• distrust/ill will
• anger/abuse/violence
• greed/destruction
• starvation/hopelessness/homelessness
• hatred/prejudice/censorship
• injustice/slavery/sexual trafficking

 

This fear can be mitigated by understanding and respecting worth and value. Rather than the starvation of the spirit–or greed–influencing life, the nourishment of spirit–or generosity of feminine and masculine spirit–can better influence life and move the world toward contentment.  The balance of life in worth and value is wholeness, and a transformation of maturity is required to find this balance.  Compassion and respect for women and men in their worth and value can heal this imbalance and enlightenment can ease the suffering.

 

Enlightenment is integrity and love expressed.  To love is to respect humanity with compassion and become one with inner worth and outer value.  In relationship, love transforms individuals by the recognition of the other in his or her wholeness and grows in trust, care, and joy.  This transformation is the transformation of the soul.  The evolution of the soul toward maturity expresses the wholeness of its nature and finds peace.  Enlightenment is that moment which opens oneself to love and the conscious fulfillment of purpose in relation to the whole of humanity, resting in the knowledge of that being perfectly fulfilled.   Love is the way toward peace, the easing of humanity’s suffering, bringing us together to be more than just ourselves.

 

Spiritual leadership is a new choice to embrace consciously a purpose and new role of the nature of being woman to guide humanity toward wholeness.  Spiritual guidance is that process of transformation toward the maturity of worth and value.

 

The steps of spiritual leadership include the recognition of:

1)  the purpose of spiritual leadership

2)  the worth of self

3)  the quality of being

4)  the vision of integrity guiding relationship

5)  the influence of health

6)  the optimum expression of respect, compassion, joy, fulfillment, and peace

7)  the affinity of partnerships in balance

 

A calling for spiritual leadership is guided by your own divine nature as woman.  You are the source of life.  If the premise serves you that as woman you are spirit, and that your spirit influences the world, then to be conscious of your spirit as it relates to your relationships is vital to healing both yourself and humanity.  The love of your spirit is the beginning of life and its transformation of relationships.

 

Reflect on this…“What’s mine is yours, and what is yours is mine.”

–Shakespeare, Measure for Measure, V, i

 

Journey inward to discover what is outward.

 

The Survey

 

Do you realize the importance of your spirit?  (yes/no)

 

Do you realize the importance of your spirit?  (yes/no)

 

If yes and a woman: Your spirit influences those around you.  As a woman, the light of your spirit as a spirit of being provides for the spiritual and emotional well being of yourself and others.  Thank you for being a spirit of enlightenment and having impact.  Is the influence that you create what you want?

 

If yes and a man: As a man, the spirit of your actions influence those around you.

Are you creating an influence that nourishes you through your relationships?  Honoring yourself and others and living in gratitude for the life that you lead inspires others to create relationship with you.

 

If no and a woman: The affects of your influence determine the potential for growth and harmony of relationship.  Understanding the importance of your spirit

is paramount if you want the influence of your spirit to be effective and to be able to live life more fully.  One step toward this appreciation may be to write a list of how you would like to be more effective.

 

If no and a man: The effects of both your attitude and actions determine how you come across to others as well as the acceptance of your own humanity and that of others.   The healthy development of maturity to include integrity, honesty, commitment and responsibilities toward the manifestation of a vision leads to self-respect and the respect of others.  Problems arise when respect is lacking or if the vision is not grounded in humanity.  How would you like to manifest your power?

 

How do you nurture your spirit to heal and transform?

Listening

Sleeping/Napping

Eating/Dining/Cooking(?)

Being of Service

Meditating

Pursuing Passions/Hobbies/Interests (fascination – to attract and hold attentively by unique power)

Having Positive Relationships

Shopping

Spas/Pampering

Education Pursuits(?)

Exercising/Sports

Caring for Animals

Socializing

Being Creative/Artistic Expression

Music

Watching TV/Films

Going to Cultural Events

Travelling

Dancing

Being in Nature

Reading

Beautifying Self/Others/Things?

Faith

Expressing Sensuality

Game Playing

Writing

Home and Garden Activities

Arts and Crafts

Learning Wisdom

Creating Meaning

Receiving (affection, gifts, money, compliments, ideas, sexual expression)

Feeling Appreciated

Developing Talents

Accomplishing Goals

Being Effective

Living Vision

Feeling Valued

Being Wanted/Cherished

Making Good Decisions

Feeling Cared For

Relaxing in Easy Tempo

Appreciating Life

Other

 

Nurturing and being nurtured revitalizes life.  Choose one of the ways that encourage you to nurture yourself from your list below and fulfill that this week:

 

I feel nurtured by…

(List all the ways they checked)

 

 

Assess the quality of your needs, health, and maturity (with the help of psychologist Abraham Maslow and his Hierarchy of Needs):

 

Biological and Physiological Needs (air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep, etc.)

(Scale) I feel my needs are:

1. Not met
2. Not very well met
3. Occasionally met
4. Met when least expected
5. Adequately met
6. Comfortably met
7. Abundantly met

 

Safety Needs (protection from elements, security, order, law, limits, stability, etc.)

(Scale) I feel my needs are:

1. Not met
2. Not very well met
3. Occasionally met
4. Met when least expected
5. Adequately met
6. Comfortably met
7. Abundantly met

 

Social Needs (belongingness and love – work group, family, affection, relationships, etc.)

(Scale) I feel my needs are:

1. Not met
2. Not very well met
3. Occasionally met
4. Met when least expected
5. Adequately met
6. Comfortably met
7. Abundantly met

 

Esteem Needs (self-esteem, achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, managerial responsibility, a woman’s worth etc.)

(Scale) I feel my needs are:

1. Not met
2. Not very well met
3. Occasionally met
4. Met when least expected
5. Adequately met
6. Comfortably met
7. Abundantly met

 

Cognitive Needs (knowledge, meaning, etc.)

(Scale) I feel my needs are:

1. Not met
2. Not very well met
3. Occasionally met
4. Met when least expected
5. Adequately met
6. Comfortably met
7. Abundantly met

 

Aesthetic Needs (appreciation and search for beauty, balance, form, etc.)

(Scale) I feel my needs are:

1. Not met
2. Not very well met
3. Occasionally met
4. Met when least expected
5. Adequately met
6. Comfortably met
7. Abundantly met

 

Self-Actualization Needs (realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences)

(Scale) I feel my needs are:

1. Not met
2. Not very well met
3. Occasionally met
4. Met when least expected
5. Adequately met
6. Comfortably met
7. Abundantly met

 

Transcendence Needs (helping others to achieve self-actualization)

(Scale) I feel my needs are:

1. Not met
2. Not very well met
3. Occasionally met
4. Met when least expected
5. Adequately met
6. Comfortably met
7. Abundantly met

 

What do you want?  What is your overall need or objective?

 

Is it a biological and physiological need through health/healing and material welfare?

Is it a safety need through structure/structuring and faith?

Is it a social need through connection/connecting and happiness?

Is it an esteem need through accomplishment/accomplishing and conviction?

Is it a cognitive need through learning and wisdom?

Is it an aesthetic need through nurturing and sense of well-being?

Is it a self-actualization through creativity/creating and completion?

Is it a transcendence need through giving and support/supporting?

 

List 3 ways you would like your life to be transformed through your overall need and objective. (open)

 

 

This is a graphic representation of the quality of your health, maturity and needs.

XXXXX graph

 

My biological and physiological needs are _______________.

My safety needs are _________________________________.

My social needs are _________________________________.

My esteem needs are ________________________________.

My cognitive needs are ______________________________.

My aesthetic needs are ______________________________.

My self-actualizations needs are _______________________.

My transcendence needs are __________________________.

 

What do you want?  What is your overall need or objective? XXXX

Is it a biological and physiological need through health/healing and material welfare? XXXX

Is it a safety need through structure/structuring and faith?

Is it a social need through connection/connecting and happiness?

Is it an esteem need through accomplishment/accomplishing and conviction?

Is it a cognitive need through learning and wisdom?

Is it an aesthetic need through nurturing and sense of well-being?

Is it a self-actualization through creativity/creating and completion?

Is it a transcendence need through giving and support/supporting?

 

When combined, we can look at your overall need for transformation and growth.

 

My overall need or objective is __________________.

 

List 3 ways you would like your life to be transformed through your overall need and objective. (open)

Your life can shift toward greater health by listening to your own inner guidance and by taking these steps:

 

Repeat response