Share Healing to Love

 

The Context

 

“As we look ahead into the next century, leaders will be those that empowers others.”

-Bill Gates

 

Women and Leadership models….move to spiritual leadership question.

1. Harriet Tubman
2. Susan B. Anthony
3. Margaret Sanger
4. Gloria Steinem
5. Golda Meyer?

 

Spiritual leadership teaches through love to advance the well-being of all.

 

The role of motherhood for women in any relationship is the opportunity to guide in the maturity toward womanhood and manhood to become healthy women and men in relation to one another.  The role of spiritual guidance is the greatest role of all, even though the perks are relative.  As women, we are the makers of dreams and the peacemakers of the soul.  If we want to accept our purpose as healers of humanity, we must begin with humility in learning to love well.  To love ourselves as women is the first step toward healing humanity.  To love ourselves requires an understanding of how to care for our own self-worth and identity.  This self-worth and identity are then translated into the world through the transformative powers of love.  The spiritual guidance of women heals through love as our worth affects the well-being and growth of all.

 

How do we appreciate our experiences through life as women and men and how does it reflect our sense of self-worth?

 

A feminine consciousness of relationship, the consciousness of care and wholeness, must be learned as an extension for men who desire to respect and honor relationship with the feminine spirit of light.

 

An Insight

 

What are the underlying causes of the need for healing and transformation?

 

If life is continuous…

 

Separation has created a need for healing.  Separation from mother is our state at birth.  It all starts with our bodies and the physical gender through which we are born.

 

Transformation returns us to a new opportunity for union with ourselves and with others.  Love is more than a feeling; it is a way of being that connects us through purpose and esteem.  Transformation supports healing and understanding love for ourselves and others better.

 

For women, this personal transformation is more difficult and yet more easy compared to men.  The difficulty lies with women not yet having a consciousness of being women in the world.  It is like the question:  Which came first?  The chicken or the egg?  To be spirit as well as to be objective to see and know ourselves is challenging.  If we are life, how can we stand outside of ourselves to identify ourselves?

 

On the other hand, the easier aspect is that being spirit, we are the direct access to the source of truth and beauty, that which brings life fulfillment.  With humility to a higher consciousness, our ability to receive grace substantiates truth.  Receiving grace is a profound experience that occasions a celebration of our worth.

 

Many of us have taken a journey down a path that leads to the rejection of the feminine spirit in the adoption of the masculine.  Our mothers may have never known to tell us that becoming a woman requires patience to find our truths in being.  In the need for maturation, the relationship with our mother may be fraught with the will to separate from her while learning the importance of the feminine, our own nature and its worth.  The value of simply being a woman may not have been honored, resulting in difficulties with self-esteem.  In the quest for wholeness, loving our mothers with compassion offers us insight into our own struggles through the darkness into the light.

 

We don’t want to reject the feminine spirit and adopt the masculine spirit; we want to embrace the feminine spirit to include the masculine in our quest for wholeness.  A masculine consciousness of light, a consciousness of value, must be learned as an extension and reflection of women’s worth if women are to move toward enlightenment.

 

Men must separate from the spirit–the mother–in order to manifest their purpose as an extension of their spirit.  This extension of spirit can elevate in honor or lower in disgrace.

 

To elevate in honor the masculine body needs to develop.  Through its separateness from spirit–the mother–the man is allowed to learn to govern himself.  This maturity of the masculine body, which carries its own purpose through the conceptual development of a plan of action toward fulfillment, is an expression of his spirit.  A man’s mind, spirit, and body must have free reign to develop free will, choice, and intent.  The desire to meet the challenges and obligations of maturity in becoming a man is his choice alone.  His intention either supports or refutes his spirit of action.  Supporting his spirit is the decision to honor himself as the spirit of action.  The decision to honor a woman, as the spirit of being, forms the basis of his understanding to be in relationship with a woman.  He becomes a man to a woman when he has the intention to be in relationship with the spirit of being.

 

When men disgrace or experience disgrace, they have not been taught how to form relationships with women.  They have been taught neither to honor women nor themselves.  The fear associated with separation from mothers in order to become men in the making may have caused a distress that equated to the abandonment of love.  This potentially perceived abandonment of love and separation from women’s spirit in order to manifest his own spirit may have felt like a disgrace.  The experience of losing favor of importance instills in men either the need to survive out of a false sense of superiority over women, often negating love and women, or the inability for them to mature successfully, clinging to women for support.  This loss may have felt as if fighting for survival were their only option, their only purpose in life, or that women are not to be respected due to the men’s emotional immaturity.

 

While independence is important for a man to become mature, his ability to be in relationship to a woman’s spirit, paradoxically, is the only way to survive, prosper, and be at peace with himself and others in the contentment of life.  A feminine consciousness of relationship, the consciousness of care and wholeness, must be learned as an extension for men who desire to respect and honor relationship with the feminine spirit of light.

 

The role of motherhood for women in any relationship is the opportunity to guide in the maturity toward womanhood and manhood to become healthy women and men in relation to one another.  The role of spiritual guidance is the greatest role of all, even though the perks are relative.  As women, we are the makers of dreams and the peacemakers of the soul.  If we want to accept our purpose as healers of humanity, we must begin with humility in learning to love well.  To love ourselves as women is the first step toward healing humanity.  To love ourselves requires an understanding of how to care for our own self-worth and identity.  This self-worth and identity are then translated into the world through the transformative powers of love.  The spiritual guidance of women heals through love as our worth affects the well-being and growth of all.

 

The Survey

 

For women, choose a relationship that may need the spiritual guidance of your worth:

 

For men, choose a relationship that may need the respect of your value:

 

How does your sense of worth/value affect this relationship?

Negating/Sabotaging/Threatening-Dominating

Victimizing/Creating Complacency/ Demanding

Creating Uncertainty/Confusing/Expecting

Supporting/Challenging/Elevating

Balancing/Respecting/Honoring

 

How does this relationship affect your sense of worth/value?

1. a)  My relationship is abusive.
2. b)  My relationship depletes energy and is devaluing.
3. c)  My relationship brings mutual respect for worth/value and happiness.
4. d)  My relationship heightens my life, worth/value, and joy.
5. e)  My relationship is safe, happy, and caring through the ups and downs of life.

 

How would you want your relationship to affect your sense of worth/value?  (List in order.)

1. a)  By increasing my feelings of safety and security.
2. b)  By increasing my feelings of competency and capability.
3. c)  By increasing my feelings of being appreciated and cherished.
4. d)  By increasing my feelings of being honored and respected.
5. e)  By increasing my feelings of passion and fulfillment.

 

Does the vision of your relationship have the possibility of return?

1. a)  No.
2. b)  It has potential.
3. c)  The return is unconditional.
4. d)  The return is arranged.
5. e)  Yes, the possibility of return has increased potential.

 

Do you want your sense of worth/value to create the possibility of transformation/change?

1. a)  No, too much work.
2. b)  Uncertain.
3. c)  Not sure how.
4. d)  Yes, but there are difficult challenges.
5. e)  Yes, personal experience confirms the ability to turn challenges into transformation.

 

What is an acceptable timeframe for transformation/changes to occur?

1. a)  There is no more time.
2. b)  The timeframe is acceptable for now, but it would not be within a determined period of time.
3. c)  The timeframe is not an issue due to various possible factors.
4. d)  The timeframe is flexible as change is occurring.
5. e)  The Timeframe evolves and with commitment, transformations occur when they do.

 

Does the investment of your worth/value merit your commitment?

1. a)  No.
2. b)  Uncertain.
3. c)  Maybe.
4. d)  Has strong potential.
5. e)  Yes.

 

What are your options for growth?

1. a)  There are no options for growth.
2. b)  The options for growth are uncertain.
3. c)  The options for growth are limited.
4. d)  There are many options to invest in.
5. e)  Options for growth are made by making meaning.

 

Do you want to stay in the relationship?  (yes/no)

1. a)  No.
2. b)  Probably not.
3. c)  Uncertain, need time to think about it.
4. d)  Yes, it’s beneficial with conditions.
5. e)  Yes, it’s healthy, valuable and fulfilling.

 

If yes, what needs to be addressed to lead toward maturity through transformation/change? (check all that apply utilizing )

 

Self – Identity and health need to be established.

Relationship – Humanity and exchange need to be honored.

Ideals – Trust and transformation need to be developed/exercised.

Purpose – Resources and self-expression need to be realized.

Goals – Achievement and fulfillment need to be manifested.

Challenges – Integrity and character need to be formed/sustained.

Gender – Worth/value need to be respected.

Union – Peace, joy, and the significance of time need to be fulfilled.

 

If time is required for maturity, can patience and compassion hold you together?  (y/n)

 

Does women’s spiritual leadership entail the ability to heal and transform first women and then others?  (y/n)

 

Does men’s respect of self and women engender the respect of women?  (y/n)
If time is required for maturity, can patience and compassion hold you together?  (y/n)

Analysis: I believe patience and compassion can hold us together.

(or) I do not believe patience and compassion can hold us together.

 

Does women’s spiritual leadership entail the ability to heal and transform first women and then others?  (y/n)

Analysis: I believe women’s spiritual leadership does/does not entail the ability to heal and transform first women and then others.

 

Does men’s respect of self and women engender the respect of women?  (y/n)

Analysis: I believe men’s respect of self and women does/does not engender the respect of women.

 

ANALYSIS

If immature, how… problem solve the specifics.  M/I –  (open 3 steps to take)

For healing, guide toward love and acceptance.

For honor, guide toward commitment of a vision of exchange.

For the development of trust, guide toward a commitment of relationship.

For making effective purpose, guide toward personal questions of value and ultimate fulfillment.

For goal achievement, guide toward a timeframe of accomplishment with a commitment.

For respect,