The Context
“I grew up like a neglected weed, ignorant of liberty, having no experience of it.”
–Harriet Tubman
The Feminist Movement and the nature of worth
The understanding of worth between men and women…man enters the world to secure his manhood and return to protect and provide. This ideal has been altered for reasons of unhappiness. Women were not in partnership of equal but different value, often they were subservient or power mongers. Either way, the balance between the sexes and their innate gifts of nature were not respected. The unseen world…. the dynamic health of energy between genders has been assaulted. What was the power of women? How has this power become disengaged? What affect has that had on the world?
An Insight
Do choices create new opportunities as well as risks for growth?
Women have created new choices for both their livelihood and expression. These new choices not only give us the ability to find alternative solutions to protect and provide for ourselves and our talents, but also give us the ability to participate in the social politics of life. These choices have led the way for greater security and self-acceptance, but have also created a crisis. In seeking out a new way to feel we are valued and valuable, rather than knowing our worth, we have created a wedge between ourselves and other women, reducing the worth of our humanity. Instead of a solidarity of building humanity together as women, we have pitted each other against one another in seeking resources like that of a man. We have also eroded the foundational value of men who look to us for approval. They want to be worthy of us in the expression of their identity as men. If our identity as women is the same as men, then our value is the same and there are no distinctions. Men are left rudderless in a dark sea without a star to guide them.
Women’s spiritual guidance defines and governs the developmental maturity of boys becoming men. To become men, women must nurture boys’ self-esteem in a healthy and balanced way so that they may create value in relation to themselves and to women. Men’s ability to manifest a vision is their value, that which can be exchanged with others to provide for a particular sense of meaning and a lifestyle reflecting their self-esteem. For men in their maturity, prosperity is the measure of talented expression, the ability to acquire and protect resources, and the success in playing the game of negotiating value in the exchange of resources. For men, successful negotiations establish efficacy in manifesting their vision and their individual happiness is dependent upon this efficacy.
Men’s maturity and value in relation to women are recognized in their ability to care and provide for women. When women have a consciousness of their worth’s value, it gives men the knowledge of how to be effective to substantiate the emotional worth of women. Men create healthy relationship in providing for the contentment of women.
For women, peace is the measure of their emotional worth being recognized and valued. The emotional worth of women is comprised of:
- What brings a woman happiness
- Her sense of deservedness in receiving value from a man
- Her responsibility for appreciating value of and from a man
These 3 aspects of emotional worth create the vision and manifestation of contentment. What brings her happiness is her vision of contentment. Her sense of deservedness is whether she believes she is worthy to receive value. Her responsibility in appreciating value is the virtue of honoring value. For example, what brings a specific woman happiness is the desire to travel afar. Feeling that she merits being recognized and valued in her emotional worth to travel afar is her sense of deservedness to receive value, a vacation. Showing appreciation for value — both the vacation and the man who provided the vacation — is her responsibility for appreciating value of and from a man. As a woman, she experiences joy.
Women’s emotions are mutable. Their emotions are a gauge of receptivity and a measure of both women’s and relationship’s health. The gauge of receptivity determines the possibility for relationship. If women have the opportunity for increased happiness through relationship of respect, they are more open to receive that opportunity to create relationship. If they are not open to receive, do not receive, or receive that which is insufficient or not wanted, they will be discontent with that opportunity. The more discontent women are, the less receptive women will be for creating relationship. When women have respect for and happiness in relationship, both women and relationship are healthy.
Men can recognize the worth of women in their ability to be content with:
- Their emotional worth
- Their desire to receive and express joy
- Their wisdom to govern self-esteem well
- Their ability to live in relationship
Women guide by aspirations and compassion to reflect men’s value as well as to live in a partnership of respect. For a man to know and have the ability to provide for a woman’s vision of emotional worth and create union with her is his way of honoring her worth and validating his self-esteem.
There is a distinction between equity and equality. The equity of gender supports fulfillment of relationship and partnership, and the equality of being human supports fulfillment of relationship and humanity. In relationship, it is paramount for men to appreciate the value of women’s worth in order to support women in their happiness, and for women to have a consciousness of their worth’s value in order for it to be substantiated. It is equally paramount for women to appreciate men’s value to support men in their happiness, and for men to respect themselves in order for them to be valued.
The attraction of polarities, the energy of opposites between the feminine and the masculine, is a recognition of interdependence between women’s quality of worth and men’s quantity of value. This recognition enables partnerships to find peace and prosperity. Having the ability to quantify the value of internal worth and qualify the worth of external value exhibits this peace and prosperity.
This interdependence of opposites can be seen as being of service to one another as a respect for worth and value through an equitable exchange of relationship and the meaning of life can be reframed as a fulfillment for all. The union of opposites in service to one another supports mutual contentment. To create partnerships, an interdependence of peace and prosperity, the foundation for a mutual vision of contentment needs to be communicated in order to establish an agreement of trust. This contentment is a measure of purpose fulfilled and is the power of men or women living natural rhythms of daily life. The significance of men’s professional pursuits and women’s personal happiness is the gauge for the health of relationship. Peace is the ultimate purpose of wholeness and being of service moves us closer to that purpose.
Between women, sharing receptivity, worth, and value supports each other in building the emotional health of humanity. Between men, extending talents and creating resources in the game of negotiation enhance the physical health of humanity. Given compassion for life’s uncertainties, life lived in integrity each day with equitable exchange and peaceful service is a life lived nurturing trust.
How can we come to see humanity not as an unknown variable but rather with purpose and trust? Questions of the quality of our humanity may instill fear or encourage love. Some aspects of our humanity when seen as different from ourselves is an unknown variable. Not knowing the qualities of a person can objectify that person, treating them like an object for use. When we are able to see the purpose of humanity as in being of service to one another, we can view these differences as opportunities for respecting differences. Being of service to one another highlights the equality of being human in addition to the unique qualities and abilities of people. It is even more paramount for humans to recognize and appreciate our purpose of being human in being of service to one another in order for humanity to thrive through worth, value, and relationship.
The Survey
In what ways do you realistically trust the opposite sex? List top 3. (open-ended with 3 boxes of 50 characters or fewer)
In what ways would you want to trust in the opposite sex? List top 3. (open-ended with 3 boxes of 50 characters or fewer)
In relationship between the sexes, in what order do you want to impart the following (beginning with the most important): worth, care, joy, and value
In relationship between the sexes, in what order do you want to receive the following (beginning with the most important): worth, care, joy, and value
In relationship with the same sex, in what order do you want to impart the following (beginning with the most important): worth, care, joy, and value
In relationship with the same sex, in what order do you want to receive the following (beginning with the most important): worth, care, joy, and value
In what ways do you realistically trust the opposite sex? List top 3. (open-ended with 3 boxes of 50 characters or fewer)
Trust is the foundation of worth through character and helps us to form relationship. It is the very foundation for our safety with one another and allows us to express ourselves more fully, leading toward the potential of our greater fulfillment. How you clarified the ability to trust in the response to this question reveals how you honor humanity and by strengthening the bonds of trust you can find commitment to nurture worth. This commitment encourages the growth of trust and the ability to move toward mutual fulfillment and completion.
(Repeat the 3 responses)
In what ways would you want to trust in the opposite sex? List top 3. (open-ended with 3 boxes of 50 characters or fewer)
Learning to trust ourselves helps us to know how we can nurture our own safety and have a respect for the opposite sex in the provision of an interdependent relationship. We are all here to express our humanity in the formation of relationship. Understanding the ways in which we would like to establish trust teaches us many lessons about how our needs can lead us to developing a thematic purpose in our lives. This purpose is an important key to unlocking the expression of our fulfillment.
(Repeat the 3 responses)
Review your responses for potential themes and how these themes influence your purpose and enhance your life.
In the most significant relationship to you what order do you want to impart the following (beginning with the most important): worth, care, joy, and value
In the most significant relationship to you in what order do you want to receive the following (beginning with the most important): worth, care, joy, and value
PROGRAM
Highlight the first relationship between these 2 above.
For example, if they choose Worth for Impart and Care to Receive…Place the phrases below…
Worth is your desire to be of significance.
If you want to impart worth, your primary focus is to increase the spiritual and emotional significance of others.
If you want to receive worth, your primary need is to feel that you have significance to yourself, others, or something. How do you want to feel important to yourself, others, or something?
Value is your desire to experience a monetary confirmation of significance.
If you want to impart value, your primary focus is to promote mental and physical talents to increase the earning of money.
If you want to receive value, your primary need is to feel that you have value to yourself, others, or something. How do you want to feel valuable to yourself, others, or something?
Care is your desire to to be concerned for well-being.
If you want to impart care, your primary focus is to recognize the health, needs, and concerns of others for their well-being.
If you want to receive care, your primary need is to feel that someone or others recognize your health, needs, and concerns for your well-being. Why and how do you need to experience the feeling of being cared for?
Joy is your desire to appreciate well-being.
If you want to impart joy, your primary focus is to show others feelings of being safe and happy in the unfolding of fulfillment.
If you want to receive joy, your primary need is to experience being safe and happy in the unfolding of your fulfillment. How do you want to experience being safe and happy?
In the most significant relationship to you between the sexes, in what order do you want to impart the following (beginning with the most important): worth, care, joy, and value
In the most significant relationship to you between the sexes, in what order do you want to receive the following (beginning with the most important): worth, care, joy, and value
In relationship with the same sex, in what order do you want to impart the following (beginning with the most important): worth, care, joy, and value
In relationship with the same sex, in what order do you want to receive the following (beginning with the most important): worth, care, joy, and value
